Testimonials


26 year old client – I very much enjoyed working with Heidi during some difficult and challenging issues to deal with. She was compassionate and a very good ear with a perspective that helped you more forward when at times you felt no hope.


Parent of 16 year old – As a parent finding help for our daughter wo was struggling with anxiety was a stressful and challenging time in our lives. Heidi was a perfect fit and out daughter blossomed during her care. The skills she learned will assist her the remainder of her life. We are so thankful for Heidi’s help.


16 year old female – Heidi was very helpful and was someone who I could always talk to about anything an still can. Heidi’s attitude would always make me smile.


Parent of 18 year old adopted youth – Heidi was a godsend to us during several really rough patches in our parenting journey. She kept her client relationship with our daughter front and center, but was also willing and able to give us parenting counsel in a way that was helpful without violating our daughter’s confidentiality. She is masterful, and above all practical.


26 year old female client - "Heidi was amazing! I cannot say enough about her wonderful and beneficial our sessions were. It was my first time for therapy and recommend all my friends/family to seek therapy if needed as I had such good results. I truly looked forward to each visit and always left feeling so relived and that I had a plan and someone to help guide, listen and provide me with suggestions. The best decision I have made!" November 2013


19 year old female client - "Working with Heidi is very relaxed, I'm able to share a lot that I can't otherwise share with others. I learned a lot of helpful ways to control my anxiety and depression." October 2013


Parent of 19 year old client - "She is the best adolescent therapist that I have encountered. Heidi understands the age group, how their minds work and what these kids see as their legitimate issues and concerns. Parents can often make the mistake of 'minimizing' their kids concerns and worries, or trying to talk them out of it, or dismiss the whole adolescent mindset as one that s/he will 'grow out of". Heidi connects with the kids, validates their thoughts and feelings and makes them feel safe and private. She helps translate what the kids are experiencing to the parents." January 2011


16 year old male client - "Seeing Heidi was one of the best decisions for me to help myself. Some days I just need a self confidence boost and Heidi was always there to give it to me. She helped me understand more about my ADD and that it didn't make me a failure. Counseling really helped me get through school. After I started my grades and the quality of my school work went up, which made me feel better about myself." June 2010


Thoughts from a father raising two teens - "Unsolicited advice shared with my friends and anyone else out there who is raising kids! So life was going great – loved being a kid, sports, girls, college, travel, engagement, developing interest in the environment, moving to the northwest, grad school, marriage to my soul mate, more travel and living abroad, returning to my first house and a real job that paid real money. I’m set. Life is one big adventure. Then we had a kid. Wow, life changing. Exhausting but now life is more clearly full of meaning and purpose. And then another one! Ok, no more, time to get snipped. Really busy now, working and raising the kids. What a project. Just about every ounce of energy outside of work went to ensuring the little ones successes. The right school. Staying active with lot of sports. Keeping healthy and eating well. Going to bed on-time. Playing with them. Making all the right decisions to keep them straight and right. It was hard no doubt, but looking back, man it was easy with what’s to come.They looked at me as KING. They giggled and chased me around the house. They did what I said for the most part. They seemed to respect me (although that isn’t quite the right word), and easily questioned everything to gain knowledge and understanding. They believed that what daddy said was right, that he knew the answers. And they melted my heart so many times. They were just so damn cute, willingly and unwillingly. And I was tired, and I didn’t have enough time for my wife, or my own interests. But hey it was OK, because they loved me and it was worth it. I didn’t mind their little piles all over (well I kinda did, but I lived with it). I didn’t mind picking up after them, because hey that was my job. They were my angels and it was hard to imagine life without them. In essence my life and theirs were intricately intertwined. They were an extension of me, or more fittingly had I become an extension of them? For more than decade this went on. Over 25% of my life! And then, while I didn’t fully see it like I do now, things began to change, and quickly there was (and is) an unraveling of that interconnectedness. I lost the keys to the bus, almost overnight. I was no longer in the driver seat, the sole decision maker. But worse I think then losing the keys, it seems like I became the adversary. Somehow I am “from the old school”, that I “don’t know what I am talking about,” that I “couldn’t possibly have any idea what they are dealing with.” They have mastered the 4 letter S and F words. They began to ignore me. To disrespect me. To disagree with just about everything I said. To keep things from me. To instantly minimize a computer screen every time I walk in the room. To criticize me!More recently, I’d had become downright bummed. Feeling more and more down about the treatment I was receiving. At the same time I was being suffocated with not having any private space anymore as they have taken over the whole house with their presence – their toys are gone, but replaced with school bags and homework, art projects, dirty sports clothes, 20 pairs of shoes scattered. They’ve taken over the office, the kitchen, the hall, the bathrooms, even my closet! And with the increase in school demands and homework, they are on the computers most waking weeknight hours. Do a search on google on raising teenagers, and you’ll unearth hundreds of thousands of hits of other lost, weary-eyed parents asking “when did my kids turn into this?” or “what have I done to deserve this?” or “why do my kids hate me?” and the dreaded “why do I hate my kids?” My favorite is “what planet are my kids from?” Was my situation harder given my kids? Maybe, but maybe not.But knowing that hormone development often triggers alien behavior and is a common phase, did little to prepare me. Yet, I still wondered when did my little angels become monsters? Why don’t they see how wrong their rationale is and listen to my stellar advice? When did they become the dreaded roommate you can’t stand in your space? And then one cold wintery day about a month ago, I threw out my back shoveling snow and was resigned to lay in bed for four full days with a bunch of pillows and Netflix on my laptop. I was off the track, although perfectly of sound and healthy mind (unlike when you are sick), yet like an observer in my own house. Their lives went on around me. They made their messes. They fought. They did what they were going to do. And as I was disengaged for all this time, I began to realize that instead of beating myself up with the questions above, the more important one I asked was how am I going to survive and get my life back? And a clarity began to settle in – LET GO resonated like a drum beat in the back of my head. Live on a parallel path. Don’t engage in every encounter. Let them come to me when they want. Let them fail or make the wrong choice in order to learn the right one. Don’t take their alien behavior as cruel and inhumane as it appears on the outside. After all, they are not reasonable or rationale at this stage. They are teenagers!And so I set out to implement my new plan. I re-arranged the house and created a space in a corner of the house that is devoid of the best view, TV and computer. A space where I can go, that won’t conflict with them. A space where I can retreat in my own castle, take care of business, relax. Rest and re-energize and do yoga. I set up a shelf with all my travel books from around the world. Put pictures on the wall from various adventures. I can listen to my own choice of music. It’s like my first college dorm room – my space! To go along with this physical space, I am trying very hard to reduce my input into their lives to only the most dire or critical. I have let them find me when they have a need or question rather than the other way around. In the last week, I have not felt so relieved in at least 18 months. I feel there is hope and joy again. I’m no expert in child development or parenting. I presume it’s normal to go through these transitions when your kids hit a certain age. But as educated and long range thinking as I am, I wasn’t fully prepared for how hard it was (is) to shift the strategy, after so long in the phase where your kids are about all you do, are and think about.I feel now as though I have had an epiphany that can be boiled down to Let Go and Live on a Parallel Path. I wish I’d read this 15 years ago. Maybe you already live by these mottos to the degree you can with younger kids. If not, my stellar advice is to think about it, do some research, and prepare for it because raising teenagers is coming, and it’s not the same as when they are young! Good luck! - j" May 2011


Local high school teacher - "It has been my pleasure and privilege to work with Heidi Roth over the past 2 years. Her understanding and compassion for the complex adolescent mind and heart – two key facets of our future – is uncommonly brave, knowledgeable, and effective. I doubt there is anyone more willing to go out on a limb to help young people navigate one of the most difficult periods in human development. I was referred to Heidi when I found myself mired in working with a former student – a teenager with a terribly challenging home life who had suddenly ended up on our doorstep, 2000 miles from her home. After hearing my story, Heidi immediately agreed to take our case, despite the fact that such treatment was impossible for us financially. After our first meeting as a group, I realized what a treasure Heidi is. She was able to hone in on key issues and offer valuable advice about communication in complex relationships, using her keen intuitive sense to ask the right questions and lightly construct guideposts for future interaction. I’m so grateful to her for everything she’s done; I truly believe she’s changing the world, one teen at a time."


Parent of 16 year old male - "My first introduction to Heidi Roth was during a Strengthening Families class that she facilitated. Immediate rapport was gracefully established with the kids involved, which wasn't easy, considering most of the kids were there because they had to be there, because of failing grades, behavior issues, etc. As a parent I was impressed that my teenaged son wanted to make an appointment with her for counseling, right away. I wasn't even aware of the extent of his emotional turmoil, at the time." January 2009


Parent of 14 year old male - "Her involvement with my son has been one of those things that I am grateful for every day because she has been instrumental in helping him learn to deal with some difficult and dangerous emotions that have been an ongoing challenge for him personally and for our family." January 2009


Parent of 18 year old female - "Her understanding, caring and empathy for teenage angst has been a blessing in all of our lives. She continues to inspire, coach and listen, as we progress through this stage of life, and I would highly recommend her for any counseling needs." January 2009


17 year old female client - "Working with Heidi had been a truly beneficial and healing experience. After having sessions both alone and with my mom I feel as though I've developed the skills I need to find my own clarity and communicate that to others". October 2009


14 year old male client - "I went to see Heidi because I was having problems with my parents, we could just not get along. She worked with me some and with my parents too. At first I could not stand the session with my parents, but after a couple times things got easier. After three months we were all able to communicate without yelling, most of the time. Now I see Heidi alone to work on other things, but I am really glad we did the family counseling stuff". March 2010


Parent of a 15 year old - "Heidi has an amazing ability to hone in on the heart of the problem and help develop meaningful strategies to address them. My daughter and I were in a power struggle that led to ongoing arguments and lots of acting out. Heidi helped us both see that our actions were contributing to the problems. She provided us with strategies to break old patterns and interact more effectively. It worked!! I am impressed with Heidi's perceptiveness and down-to-earth attitude. She's a great person to have on our team". August 2010


Heidi asks the hard questions that need to be addressed. In a caring and compassionate way, she helps couples and families address root issues. ~Parent


Heidi was a godsend to us during several really rough patches in our parenting journey. She kept her client relationship with our daughter front and center, but was also willing and able to five us parental counsel in a way that was helpful without violating our daughter’s confidentiality. She is masterful, and above all, practical! ~Parent


As a parent, finding help for our daughter who was struggling with anxiety was a stressful and challenging time in our lives. Heidi was a perfect fit and our daughter blossomed during her care. The skills she learned will assist her the remainder of her life. We are so thankful for Heidi’s help! ~Parent


I very much enjoyed working with Heidi during some difficult and challenging issues to deal with. She was compassionate and a very good ear with a perspective that helped you move forward when at times you felt no hope. She had gems of info that made you stop and think that then made you realize how to stay positive and move forward. I very much recommend her. ~Client


Heidi was very helpful and was someone who I could always talk to about anything and still can. Heidi’s attitude would always make me smile. ~Client


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